Healing the Split Self / Split Life: The Path to Embodiment and Wholeness
From my heart to yours, I want to talk about a profound state of suffering that happens when we are disconnected from our deepest, innermost self, our essence and our soul. When Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma enter a relationship, it creates a catastrophic rupture. To truly understand how someone can create a “Secret Sexual Basement” […]
The Charm is the Alarm: Deeply Understanding the Reason to Stop Waiting for the Person Who Discarded You
From my heart to yours, I need to speak a hard truth today. A truth that might cut deeply to the core of you. However, it is one truth that is necessary for your survival and your rising. Do not wait on someone who has discarded you. If they continue to harm you without digging […]
The Butterfly’s Labor: A Poem of Transformation
Have you ever witnessed a butterfly emerging from its chrysalis? It’s an exquisite sight of delicate beauty. Yet, behind that beauty lies a struggle, a powerful metaphor for the journey of healing. I often see the butterfly as an invitation for much needed change, whether it is emotional, psychological, physical, or spiritual. For me, the […]
The Unseen Impacts: How Deceptive Sexuality Violently Ripples Through Lives and Relationships
Deceptive Sexuality. Infidelity. Betrayal. These words have a gravity that rips the soul and obliterates trust itself. In the aftermath of discovering deceptive sexuality, it is imperative to consider first the impacts on the betrayed partner; and then widen the lens and see the entirety of it. The rippling of this type of trauma extends […]
A Rewritten Serenity Prayer for the Evolution of Time
The Serenity Prayer is a timeless source of wisdom and comfort for those experiencing suffering and navigating challenges in life. However, as our understanding of trauma, resilience, and the human experience shifts and moves, it is valuable to revisit and reimagine these words in a way that resonates with our ever-changing lives. My Rewritten Serenity […]
From Landing to Becoming: Embracing Your Transformation Journey
We all experience pivotal moments in our lives—at times they can be smaller leaping points into growth and newness, and in other moments they can be shocks filled with emotional pain, agony, and deep grief. Whatever the turning point experience carries, it is an ending that leads to a new beginning, a threshold that invites […]
Suffering Hearts, Fragmenting Souls: Finding Healing After Deceptive Sexual Trauma and Relational Betrayal
At a very deep level, the human heart yearns for connection—to be known, nourished, tended to, and held. When we enter a committed partnership, we make vows: promises to protect, honor, and cherish our beloved’s heart and soul. But sometimes, these deep bonds are broken and ruptured by acts of deception and betrayal. This can […]